I did an overtime on the 23rd. This time I was in Assessment Medical Unit - a ward that receives referral from GP (General Practitioner) and admits patient from A and E/ Emergency Room. It was a very busy shift. We we're only two at a start of the shift and patient being admitted never stopped at all. Mostly elderly and very frail. Hospital was in red alert, means that there are limited beds available even though they already opened an extra ward which accommodates 28 patients. This elderly patients are being admitted not because the are poorly but because they want to stay in the hospital for the reason that they don't want to be alone during Christmas (most of them just made up anything so that they can be admitted). And some of them was dragged by their daughter/son so that they will not be a disturbance during holiday season. It really sucks!!! Why can't the relatives look after this elderly patient? Back home in Philippines we respect and love especially our oldies and we do take care of them up to their last days. But why not here? Is it because of their culture? As what I noticed here in UK (after 7 years of experience) more than half of relatives including daughters and sons are not concerned of their parents. Why??? I just hope and pray that my kids will not be like them when I get old.
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:*-( I don't understand that either. We were in Walmart the other day and this man was overly bothered with his mother. She was walking too slow. I stood back and let her pass. He was just so irritated. My sister was with me and I asked her, "Was that his mother? He should be happy he still has her." Our mother died in 1998 when she was 49. We greatly respect our elders. We only get them for so long and they are so wise.
Shiela you said: "As what I noticed here in UK (after 7 years of experience) more than half of relatives including daughters and sons are not concerned of their parents. Why???"
Me says: It is something that I saw back in the 1980's when I was in the U.S. and because of that I rejected a job offer while I was there during a business trip plus three other separate offers that followed thereafter.
I was not prepared to lose my children while they are still teens and not mentally mature.
Why? I believe a lot of the blame rests with the parents in those countries. Perhaps it is the price they finally pay when their children become adults and it is then too late to foster family and filial values.
Of course what I say does not represent the entire Western society. But the social mindset is greatly influenced by opposing values and lifestyles; something that parents themselves seem unable to counteract because the parents themselves are in the rat race and parenting quality suffers.
Traditional Asian family values today are also becoming strained by Western lifestyles and there are cracks in what has always been regarded as stoic family togetherness and respect for parents and elders.
that is sad and just disgusting. I love my parents. My father had a stroke and when he did I was there every second of every day. Prayer and fear were the only thing I had at the time. He got better than god but I could never leave my parents! That's so awful.
kuyawa ba oi? whoaaa unsa klasi mga tawhana? tuod merkano mani akong bana pero hala mag kugi jud kaha mig drive 4.5 hours para lang makita iyang amahan no?
bahala magkapuliki mi basta lang ma bisita.. so didto mi last Christmas intawn, atleast among presence makapadasig niya nga naa pajud gamahal niya bisan naa siya sa healthcare center. depende ra cguro nas taw oi kay nagtuo jud ko mga merkano tanan ingon ana.. pero lahi ako bana kay nag huna huna jud pud siya sa iyang papa oi...
That is sad. :o( I think it shows how people raise their kids. I see a lot of grown up children here in the US that cares a lot for their parents. If we raise our kids to grow up respectful and responsible, then we needn't worry about being alone in our old age. Parents should spend time with their children instead of working three jobs just to afford that new Benz sitting in their garage. :o(
for every country the culture is different so we cant blame in it...it is only the parents who has to teach the good things to their children.so this is an universally approved for all the parents in the world...so dont worry abt your kids...its all in your hands..ok .bye takecare
I know what you are talking about, my dear. I also heard of elderly people here who pay cleaning ladies but do not need them really for the cleaning but for the conversation.
One such elderly lady was not even visited by her only child even if she was suffering from cancer. But when she called up that daughter to pick up her (the old lady) car because it is not being used anyway, she arrived immediately but left just as quickly - more interested in the car than the mom!
yeah, we Filipinos make such excellent carers because we love our old people.
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